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\u201cThe body is continuously poised to resolve afflictions and all of the physiological and emotional imbalances they create.\u201d James Oschman, PhD.<\/p>\n
This isn\u2019t new material for me. In fact, it is the cornerstone of my belief system for bodywork. However, assuming the above quote is true and so many of us strive for true health and wellness, then why is it that so many of us don\u2019t feel truly well? Is there some component that millions of us are missing? Is it something we\u2019re doing to ourselves or is something being done to us? Hmmm. I wonder if feeling good a myth? I\u2019ve been turning those questions over in my head for at least thirty years and wondered what others thought.<\/p>\n
So, before being seated at a recent dinner party, I quietly posed this question to one or two people:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n
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As we spoke among ourselves, other guests came together to listen. Each asked, what was going on and each time I posed the same question: Is feeling good a myth? The guests were intrigued by the question and thoughtful before each in turn asked me, \u201cWhat do you mean? Are you talking about physical health, mental, spiritual or what?\u201d<\/p>\n
Being on the receiving end and suddenly finding myself a facilitator, I said, \u201cYou tell me?\u201d I listened intently, posed more questions and followed along as something curious happened. The guests began to question themselves and each other. They found themselves attempting to answer for one another and then finally evaluated for themselves the personal meaning of feeling good.\u00a0 The answers weren\u2019t surprising in and of themselves but what was surprising was the depth that people went to in order to help me understand their points of view.<\/p>\n
One woman said she didn\u2019t realize that she felt badly until she read an article in which she identified herself. She knew that life was tough for her but she didn\u2019t realize that there was another way to feel.\u00a0 Another woman commented, \u201cAre we talking about happiness then? What is happy?\u201d \u201cIts chemical,\u201d someone else concluded. \u201cIt\u2019s a state of mind,\u201d said another.<\/p>\n
Realizing that even though many of the guests had dealt with or were currently dealing with health issues, it surprised me that the majority of answers they provided had clearly been steered to emotional wellness. \u201cWhat about physical wellness\u201d, I asked. Some had been sick and recovered. Two had recently had surgical procedures to remove cancer. Someone was dealing with HIV positive status. There was an audible sigh\u2026a release of sorts when we stopped talking.<\/p>\n
It was amazing being both a part of the process and also an observer. As dinner continued, the conversation gradually drifted to other subjects and I sat quietly with my thoughts. The responses to the question were inevitably varied because each had his own point of view.\u00a0 I was quite pleased with the overall response; I certainly didn\u2019t plan it. \u00a0In fact, it went over so well that I was even more intrigued than when I began.<\/p>\n
What was seemed important was that everyone was drawn in to the conversation because feeling good was a concern. Everyone wanted to hear, to be heard and everyone needed to be validated. Clearly being heard and being validated is one of the keys to health.<\/p>\n
Of course, feeling good is highly personal but it\u2019s clear that illness and recovery and even death are a part of all our daily lives. What I want to know is why do so many of us feel badly routinely. Are we doing something to ourselves? Is something being done to us?<\/p>\n
At the end of the evening some people came back to me to discuss the original question. I wanted to ask them more concretely about my thoughts but time didn\u2019t allow it. I thought back to what I\u2019d heard. \u201cI think it\u2019s easier to feel good when you\u2019re young,\u201d said a young woman.\u00a0 \u201cWell, I suppose if you\u2019ve always been sick you wouldn\u2019t know what feeling good feels like.\u201d someone else commented. \u201cWhatever happens, you have to work through it anyway. You have to go on.\u201d<\/p>\n
So what is the answer? Well, I\u2019ve had a head start on this line of thinking and I\u2019ve come up with several possibilities but I would really like to hear your thoughts. And if it\u2019s okay, I\u2019ll share your responses with everyone in my next newsletter.<\/p>\n
Do you believe that feeling good a myth? Why do so many of us feel badly routinely?\u00a0 I\u2019ll fill you in on what I\u2019ve discovered in my next issue.<\/p>\n
I\u2019ll leave you with this incredible video that truly demonstrates the human spirit.<\/p>\n